HIGH STANDARDS ENCOURAGE AND SUPPORT THOSE WHO HAVE HIGH STANDARDS.
It is a tremendous frustration for a family to have high standards if workers in their church do not have the same kind of high standards. Likewise, if the church maintains high standards for its workers, it is a tremendous encouragement to the families who are striving to maintain good standards. It reinforces their position. Parental standards are undermined when churches allow workers with unbiblical standards to minister. The parents' job is made more difficult. This creates tremendous confusion and great potential for problems. The young people are tempted to fault their parents with being unreasonable legalists. The youth workers cannot back up the parents because they live contrary to godly standards. This makes them uncomfortable, so they are tempted to speak against those parents and label them as "legalistic," "self-righteous," "holier than thou," etc. The parents who have the higher standards can be seen as the "trouble makers" no matter how perfect their hearts are toward the Lord.
If the standards for the church are set low, it produces carnel Christians. The standards should be set at the higher, Biblical level for the purpose of discipling and bringing those with low standards up to a higher level.
